14 Best Long Distance Sex Toys 2023: App

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To help keep the spark alive, look to these app-enabled smart devices.

Making long-distance relationships work can be one of the toughest challenges for anyone, especially as your sex life may feel restricted to the fleeting visits you have with your partner. But sex toys have long evolved past solo play, and you shouldn't feel like phone sex or steamy FaceTimes are the only resources in your relationship toolkit to keep things intimate. The best long-distance sex toys can help simulate many of the same exciting, erotic moments you have with one another while in person. And since these toys are all tech-forward, your partner can control them directly from their phone, even if they're halfway across the globe.

Having toys that can simulate vaginal, anal or oral penetration as well as stimulate sensitive glans and pleasure zones can enhance all the methods of long-distance intimacy you may already be practicing, explains Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., sex and relationship expert, author and host of the "Sex With Dr. Jess" podcast. That may be using voice notes, sexting (sending arousing text messages!), sharing private photos or even video chatting. "Tech has come a long way, and you can now connect many vibrators and devices to your phone…allowing you to hand over the reins of control to your lover, whether they're five feet away or 5,000 miles away," she says. "App-enabled toys range from penis rings to vibrators to 'pleasure air' options, often referred to as suction-toys."

You can read more about how we enlisted actual long-distance couples to test and review sex toys at the end of the guide. Looking for other ideas to spark intimacy in the bedroom? Check out our guides to the best toys for IRL couples.

Made in a familiar shape that's time-honored, this rabbit vibrator brings all the features you already love into the future with Lovense's mobile application. Designed to pair with the Lovense Max 2 masturbator (featured below), the Nora will respond in real time to thrusts and other motions so that each toy simulates live sex, despite being apart. The audio integration for Lovense toys, including the Nora, make it easy for partners to control the toy audibly, too — one tester indicated her partner was able to control the rhythm of the toy via a Facetime call. Our consumer reviewers also indicated its exterior was extremely easy to clean and maintain, and interacted well both with water-based and gel-based lubricants.

Verified Review: "I bought this because of a long-distance relationship and I am very satisfied with my purchase! I often have difficulty climaxing but not with this toy," one reviewer shares. "The app is very cool too; if your partner is controlling the functionality, you can't see what levels of vibration or rotation they are choosing, as your screen is completely blank! The surprise gives them all of the control which is nice because that's how real sex could be if you wanted it to."

We-Vibe's compact sculpted vibrator features an ergonomic design with an applicator that adjusts to your own body as you explore its use. Reviewers indicated that it is on the quiet side (a bonus for indiscreet use!), and the vibrating motors in the gadget's tip make for fun use, even when alone. But the interactivity of this toy is impressive thanks to We-Vibe's mobile application means a partner can cycle through over eight different rhythms and speeds from afar.

Verified Review: "The vibe has a good range of intensities from a very low and rumbling to a strong high buzz. It's great that they've separated out the intensity from the patterns so you don't have to scroll through patterns to get to the intensity you want," one reviewer shares. "The vibe material is soft and flexible, and being completely waterproof makes it easy to clean up."

Equipped with a special gripped design that targets both your G-spot and clitoris, Lovense's Dolce vibrator comes equipped with two motors for both areas. Testers loved that the toy's adjustable base allowed them to use this toy hands-free, enabling the Dolce to sit firmly against the skin and fit snugly internally. Its petite size makes it a perfect option for play while away from home, alongside its discreet design profile.

Verified Review: "It has preset patterns for when my friend is busy, but he can control it when he's not. He is really good at making up patterns," one reviewer shares. "I like that it bends so I can adjust it just right. I can sit and walk with it on, too."

The magic of magnetic attachments is clear with this fun offering from We-Vibe, which allows you to discreetly slip this clitoral vibrator into the underwear of your choice. With a strong motor, the Moxie can be remotely controlled via the We-Vibe app — but it also comes packaged with a remote control for proximity use as well. Public reviewers indicated that they appreciated the Moxie was waterproof for use in the outdoors while in a bathing suit, for example.

Verified Review: "If you're looking for a long-distance toy, this is the one. Me and my boyfriend are 2,500 miles apart and he can control it on the app," a shopper shares. "I use it as a regular vibrator, we don't use the magnet, but it does come with a spare one."

For those with partners that have a penis, Kiiroo's Titan stroker makes for a great gift that you can control remotely yourself during times when you can't be there in person. It's more discreet than other vibrators or strokers featured in this guide; with up to nine vibrators activated at once, testers indicated that the motor was on the quieter side. And just like other Kiiroo products on this list, this device can also be linked to others via the brand's FeelConnect app. It can also be used with interactive pornographic material.

Verified Review: "Even though the design is really simple, it provides VERY intense orgasms that are also hands-free, leaving my hands free for added stimulation," one reviewer shared. "The design is basically a rubber sleeve that has vibration motors along and around the whole shaft, so it really vibrates EVERYTHING and not just one spot."

Lovense's most popular offerings for people with penisesis less a penetrative sex simulator — and more of a holistic vibrator with mind-blowing constriction that's temperature controlled, too. Testers indicated that this gadget felt like a highly customized hand job which set it apart from other sleeves on this list. Alongside the Nora or another Max 2, Lovense gives you the capability of syncing up each toys to each other's rhythms and movements, so it truly feels like lovers are experiencing the same eroticism in step with one another.

Verified Review: "On my first outing, I was just cycling through the vibrations, and then I hit the pulse button activating the air bladder," one reviewer shares. "In four short squeezes, the Max 2 got my rocks off."

If you're missing out on oral sex, this suction-based toy mimics the best of this by manipulating the air around your clitoris. The brand's mobile app (the Satisfyer Connect app) allows a partner to control two different motor settings with over 6 vibration schedules from a great distance. There are 11 intensity settings to choose from, so you can build the excitement as you go!

Verified Review: "I was shocked at how quickly I finished and the amount of times I did. It's very quiet for all the work it does and on top of that the app is pretty dope to use."

A gift that will make anyone with a vulva very happy, this standalone G-spot vibrator is highly interactive despite its streamlined design. Testers found it connected well with the Kiiroo Titan in that both devices delivered the same vibration patterns for a synchronized intimate experience. It seamlessly connects with video programming as well as 3D games available via the FeelConnect app.

Verified Review: "I have the hardest time getting off but me and my partner use this and it's the best toy hands down I have ever used— strongest vibrations in any toy ever!"

KIIROO's Pulse Solo Interactive can help anyone with a penis feel as if they are being touched intimately by a partner, even if they aren't in the room. Its sturdy silicone exterior is soft to the touch, meaning users can slip into the device without much preparation and begin experiencing top-notch vibrations with the click of a button. Testers reported that the FeelConnect app seamlessly connected to interactive porn which makes this vibrating masturbator feel even keel with other more enveloping options on this list. Plus, it's water-resistant and can be used in the shower for wet play.

Verified Review: "The vibrations are strong and when synced up using FeelAI, it's amazing! The battery life is great and have never had it run out on me. "

If you fancy yourself a contortionist, the Nova 2 is the toy for you. Testers indicated that it provides vibrating stimulation to almost all the pleasure zones of the vagina all at once, given its dual motor action in both shafts. And because its posterior is entirely flexible and adjustable by force, this option is great for those who feel that more rigid vibrators don't always pair well with the shape and depth of their vagina. Alongside other We-Vibe toys on this list, this Nova 2 toy is fully remotely accessible via the We-Vibe app.

Verified Review: "I find a lot of rabbits to be quite 'stock standard' with a similar design and not a lot of flexibility, they either work for you, or they don't," one reviewer shares. "This rabbit is a bit different and I found it is a much better option for people that find standard rabbits aren't quite right for them."

If you are missing penetration with your partner (whether that's vaginal, anal or oral) this high-tech stroking machine is just about the closest experience you'll get to the real thing. You'll need to purchase a sleeve of your choice to accompany Kiiroo's Keon machine, which is built with an ergonomic grip that allows users to seamlessly experience up to 230 strokes a minute. Testers indicated that the FeelConnect app allowed their partners to virtually customized everything about their experience, making this one of the best masturbation experiences for those with penises. It pairs perfectly with any of the other Kiiroo products featured on this guide for in-sync rhythms to facilitate virtual sex from miles away, including other male masturbators that function in step for gay couples.

Verified Review: "My girlfriend got this for me because she was going on a ladies' trip and didn't want me to 'go without'. Perfect solution! Can't wait to test another couple sleeves!"

This rounded vibrator head packs quite a punch. It can make for a thrilling experience when a partner is controlling its vibration speed and strength from a distance. Public reviews indicate that this toy requires a hand (or two!) to be most effective, but is equipped with technology that allows for remote play using Lovense's app. You don't even need another partner, perse, for this specific toy — Lovense's app has recently integrated an AI function from ChatGPT that allows you to ask a robot to create unique, exciting masturbatory patterns for you.

Verified Review: "It is indeed the strongest wand I have ever used," one shopper shares. "I love the lights and love that it works with the Lovense app and has the custom-led selection to choose from."

A more compact version of the We-Vibe's Verge ring, it's an easier fit that sits snugly between a penis and a vagina during intercourse. It features the same remote control capabilities through the brand's mobile application, with 11 vibration settings that can be turned off and on remotely. The smooth silicone base stretches a bit for those with girth and provides stimulating vibration even when used alone.

Verified Review: "This was our first app-controlled toy and we were very surprised at how well it worked. The app gets great updates and it allows my partner to control it via her phone where ever she is," one reviewer shares. "The actual toy itself worked really well and certainly added to our experience and enjoyment together. Once on, it is very comfortable and is also very easy to clean."

A vibrating penis ring that can be controlled remotely in the same manner that a panty vibrator can? That's the basis of We-Vibe's Verge, which can be worn during physical vaginal sex to add extra stimulation to penetration for those with a vagina. Testers indicated that this tight fit (which may be too tight if you're already aroused!) ensures you'll feel every buzz and vibration along the ridge of the scrotum.

Verified Review: "My husband loves this toy. He was skeptical at first but as soon as he tried it, he loved it!," one shopper shared. "And for me, it feels like it turns his penis into a vibrator. No regrets with this purchase!"

To find the best sex toys designed to be used remotely at any distance, Good Housekeeping health editors surveyed half a dozen real-life consumer testers currently in long-distance relationships. These testers evaluated aspects like connectivity, ease of use, adaptability and flexibility for personal use in the bedroom, and upkeep and cleaning aspects after intimacy. Reviews were coordinated over the span of a minimum of two weeks, if not longer. More than 25 products were distributed to couples who used them to explore connection from afar, including LGBTQ+ couples who were able to pair devices designed for the same gender.

Editors also spoke with a sex and relationship expert to better educate readers on how sex toys may enhance relationships and the role that they may play when lovers are apart. We inquired about the best ways to use these sexual devices and matched those qualifications against product specs for each toy listed in this guide. Alongside feedback generated from our panel of consumer testers, editors also reviewed verified customer feedback on these products and took that into consideration in final rankings.

The best sex toys for you are often the ones that meet your individual needs, so it's important to be in tune with what you're looking for. "​​Do what feels good for you as opposed to trying tick boxes," Dr. O'Reilly advises. "If you don't like phone sex or video sex, you don't have to have it. Having said that, don't avoid trying things just because you feel awkward or uncomfortable; find a balance where you give it a try and shut it down if it's not bringing you joy, connection or pleasure."

That being said, you'll need to find sex toys that build upon stimulation to pleasure points you know you want to target — whether that's your clitoris, G-spot, prostate, glans penis or other areas — as well as offer a window of opportunity for your partner to play with you from afar.

The best long-distance sex toys often feature:

✔️A standalone mobile app. All of the toys featured in this guide are paired with proprietary mobile apps that can be used to remotely control them from areas way outside the bedroom, often through WiFi-enabled connections. Some of these apps (Lovense Remote, FeelConnect chiefly among them) simply allow you to access your partner's toy remotely even if you don't have one yourself.

✔️ Video or audio capabilities. Some of the intercourse simulators on this guide are paired with content libraries that sync up with mechanical motions performed by the toys. Your partner may also be able to access an audio interface with each mobile app that allows them to take physical control of your toy while also projecting audio into your partner's space, and vice versa. These capabilities are becoming more commonplace for highly developed sex toys designed for couples living apart.

✔️ Waterproof materials. Think options like silicone, glass, steel and other safe, comfortable surface materials that make for ease of use and easy clean up when playtime is over. Nonporous materials ensure cleanliness for anything that may be entering your body, and can be sturdier for long-term use.

In his role as Health Editor, Zee Krstic works hand in hand with analysts in the Good Housekeeping Institute to highlight consumer-facing input from leading health experts; he interweaves doctors' and healthcare providers' expertise into shopping guides to better educate readers. He also independently reviews new products in the wellness space for Good Housekeeping, which he has done previously for Martha Stewart Living and Cooking Light.

To better educate shoppers, Zee interviewed Jess O'Reilly, who has a Ph.D. in human sexuality with a focus on teacher education. She is the author of five books including The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay and has facilitated over 1,000 workshops in 40 countries from Lebanon to Switzerland. Jess also hosts CityTV's Intimately You, PlayboyTV’s hit reality series Swing, and her weekly @SexWithDrJess podcast alongside her husband, Brandon

Zee Krstic is a health editor for Good Housekeeping, where he covers health and nutrition news, decodes diet and fitness trends and reviews the best products in the wellness aisle. Prior to joining GH in 2019, Zee fostered a nutrition background as an editor at Cooking Light and is continually developing his grasp of holistic health through collaboration with leading academic experts and clinical care providers. He has written about food and dining for Time, among other publications.

Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., is a sex and relationship expert with a background in education. Her research and passion involves teacher training in sexual health and she volunteers in schools and universities to help bring better sex and relationship education to students across Ontario. Jess is also a television personality, author, podcast host (@SexWithDrJess Podcast) and international speaker who has facilitated hundreds of corporate workshops and retreats in 40+ countries from Lebanon to Costa Rica. Catch Dr. Jess’ on Global TV’s The Morning Show, PlayboyTV’s Swing and the weekly Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast co-hosted by her much-better-half, Brandon Ware. Or follow her mostly food, travel and dog pics on Instagram: @SexWithDrJess.

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